What is Mine What is Not Mine

Beautiful  Brilliant  Brutal

Life is such a beautiful teacher. Sometimes it’s gentle; sometimes it’s just right there in my face in a surprising and startling way. 

Last week the universe, my sweet universe, presented me with a situation that sent me reeling. Spiralling Spiralling. Spiraling. I wanted to run away.  

That’s not what I did. Nope. I stayed grounded as best I could by meditating, using somatic strategies, journaling, and walking. 

Which kept me in the here and now. However, there was a niggling feeling that I could not put my finger on.

But, during my meditation this morning, I realized what was going on. I was feeling responsible for someone else’s struggles in life. I had felt guilt, shame and sorrow all at once. It was too much and so heavy.

When I realized why I was still feeling a heaviness after 3 days, I felt such a relief. Freedom. 

I am not responsible for anyone else’s healing.

This was brutal, but I am ready and have the capacity to heal this in myself.

I am sitting in gratitude today.

Thank you my sweet universe!

Favourite Thing Right Now

I currently live in the Caribbean. Warm ocean breezes. Soft sand to sink my toes into. Waves to jump. Magical ocean energy to ground me. Paradise.

We are experiencing a bit of a cold spell, cold being relative, right?  Which means it's time to bring out the hoodies, jeans, socks, blankets,  and yes, my favourite heating pad. Thank you Amazon.  While I have a fan and an air conditioner in my apartment, when it gets cool, I have no way of heating my space. 

But I do have my soft, aqua teal (love the colour; another favourite of mine) heating pad. This exquisite little gadget, comes with a timer and 10 temperature settings. 

I mean, what more could a girl ask for? Picture me snuggled cozily with a blanket and my heating pad.  That's what I'm talking about.

Boundaries

Since my introduction to Somatic Experiencing about a year and a half ago, it’s been beautiful, brilliant and brutal. Yet so necessary.  And so life changing. Capacity is now one of my favourite words. 

What I want to talk about today is how capacity has led me to the wonderful world of boundaries. What are boundaries? Why do I need boundaries? How do I begin to explore and bring boundaries into my life? Tenuous first steps for me were simply saying, “No!”  

Scary and empowering at the same time. And it’s gotten easier the more I say No and realize the sky will not fall. Oh my!  

Now, it’s using my voice to say more than no.  This feels very big right now while at the same time, I know it’s time. Trusting my inner guidance and my sweet universe. We are doing this! 

Stay tuned…

Safe To Be Me

 

Today I sat myself down, looked myself in the eye and said, "It's time to stop the bullshit." Stop second guessing yourself. 

Stop going over what I did, how I conducted myself, berating myself for choices I made an hour ago, or this morning, or five minutes ago. 

I choose in this moment to live freely.

I give myself grace for the choices I make.

  

World Peace

The only peace it is meaningful to speak about is world peace.    ~ Dalai Lama                                                                                                                                            I must dispute this as I believe peace starts with each of us as individuals.  As Tom Oliver, CEO World Peace Festival & World Peace Partnership says, “Wars start in the minds of people before they are ever fought on the battlefield, so this is where change needs to begin.”  World peace begins one heart at a time, so to me it is necessary and relevant to speak about peace at every level, and so important at the individual level, which will translate to world peace.   Collaboration rather than competition. War does not encourage peace.  Peace is a lot more than simply the cessation of wars, it is about a lifestyle as much as anything and that is why peace begins with each of us. I make it a priority to live in harmony with my values, bringing compassion along to nurture the souls of those I come into contact with. Feeding my inner peace. I model the behaviour that to me will spread peace.  I  believe world peace is possible one person at a time. 

Saw this as I was surfing the web the other day (no credit was given to the author)                                                                            Facelift                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         Want to look ten years younger? No surgery? No downtime? No needles? In the “before” picture, a person is staring into the camera, flat-lined. In the “after” picture, that same person erupts in a broad, happy, eye brow lifting, neck toning grin. There you have it. . .                                                                                                                                                                               Ten years younger.  Plus your smile is contagious.                                                                                                                          Inner peace is what can lead to global peace...brings about connection.  What one person puts out energetically is felt by all. It ripples around the world.                                                                                                                                                          Peace begins with me                                                                                                                                                                      Peace...all about the people – 1 at a time.

As you take two minutes to consider peace for our world today, think about how you can expand your inner peace as you give yourself a facelift with your smile.

Alone together

You're human me too

Alone together today

I'm assuming it

Knowing I am alone together keeps me centered and peaceful. Solitude with and solitude alone.

As you take two minutes to consider peace for our world today, remember you are alone together and feel peace flood in.

“Peace does not mean just to stop wars, but also to stop oppression and injustice.”

- Nobel Laureate توكل كرمان Tawakkol Karman of Yemen

Life As An Adventure

The ideal would be to own a business or work in a job that fulfills every desire we have, and to have this business or job allow perfect balance in your life. How do we decide what trumps what? Live to work or work to live? Are you just following the money, so the 9 - 5 ; Monday to Friday grind is fine for you?  I think making a living goes way beyond accumulating a large bank account.   But what about joy, peace, freedom, satisfaction and happiness? I have found the answer in a very simple mind shift. I have habitually viewed what I do in my life, whether that be business, work or personal as hard. No fun. Just must do whatever is required.  Not a prescription for joy, peace,  freedom, satisfaction and happiness. So, here's what I do now. I regard what I am doing as an adventure. If I am doing laundry, looking for a parking spot, talking to a client or spending time with my grandkids...it is an adventure.  I approach it with huge curiosity. What's going to happen? How will I feel? What will I learn? How can I make this fun? And this makes ALL the difference. The mundane is now spectacular.
As you take two minutes to consider peace for our world, think about your life as an adventure.